The following is a conversation that I had yesterday with a friend.
Jack - Hey, I have a question for you.
Carrie - Here we go!
Jack - No seriously
Carrie - OK, go ahead.
Jack - You know how you have been going on about this self love stuff?
Carrie - Yes
Jack - Are you saying we should brag about ourselves to everyone we meet. You know, tell everyone how awesome we really are?
Carrie - But, that wouldn't be self love would it?
Jack - How so? You have been telling me I should fall in love with myself. Isn't that part of it.
Carrie - Not at all. When you brag to someone, what you are doing is looking to them for their approval. You are asking them to judge you. In essence you are trying to gauge your own self worth by the values of someone else.
Jack - Isn't it important that they know how great I really am? I mean, look at all of this awesomeness.
Carrie - I am sure your ego thinks that's important.
Jack - Be nice.
Carrie - I was being nice. lol No seriously, looking to someone else for their approval would tell me that you think there is something lacking in you. There is nothing lacking in you or me or any of us. We are all magnificent beings of energy comprised of pure love. Yes I said pure love.
Jack - OK to the obvious question then...If we are all made of pure love then how come there is so much evil in the world? Answer me that one.
Carrie - That is because when people don't realize just how perfect they are, they sometimes act out. And unfortunately they act out in some really bad ways. They are in so much pain themselves. If they truly understood their own worth. If they truly understood that they were beings comprised of pure love then there is no way they could do anything to harm anyone or anything. EVER.
Jack - So you are saying then, that we should probably try and have compassion for the criminal instead of condemnation?
Carrie - Exactly. If they felt the self love that I am talking about then there would no longer be a need for the prisons. Wouldn't that be something?
Jack - Yes, it would. I think this world has a long way to go before it reaches that point though.
Carrie - I do too. But I think we are moving in the right direct though. This is why I think it so important to learn about self love. The only reason we judge others is because we sit in judgement on ourselves. Sitting in judgement is not love.
Jack - Do you really think that this is all that simple, though?
Carrie - Yes, Jack. I really do.
I must agree with you Carrie. Self love is the begining of the process of enlightenment. With that going on everything else falls into place step by step. Our ability to accept others as thy are now begins to manifest inside us, and ad it grows so does our love. And with the healing process that is going on at the same time. I would say self love is the ultimate. Wonderful post Carrie. Thank you for being you.
ReplyDeleteThanks Karl. As usual you eloquently expand on what I was saying. Thank you for being you. Yes I stole it from you. lol
DeleteInteresting conversation. I think I could add a concept that might help to expand this idea. We have a tendency to think of ourselves as a 'completely individual individual'.That is in fact an illusion. We are in fact a composite of our-selves our family, our friends, our work, our groups our species, and life itself, so I feel the idea of 'self-love' might be extended to include all of the above and hence have a love and understanding for everyone and everything. What do you say?
ReplyDeleteI would say that we are connected to everything and everything is connected to us. Nothing is separate. So learning to appreciate and love yourself is in fact loving the whole of existence. It is a win, win. Thanks for your comments. I appreciate it.
DeleteDear Carrie,
ReplyDeleteThis is one interesting conversation i ever heard and read ! Jack asked a very interesting question ''If we are all made of pure love then how come there is so much evil in the world? Answer me that one.'' and i can see that he fully understand when you answered his question because obviously,he have the same answer as mine and that is '' try and have compassion for the criminal instead of condemnation?'' AND ''this world has a long way to go before it reaches that point though.'' .
Carrie,your answer is way beyond my answer and that is why i do believe Seniors are much more experienced than Juniors.Thank you for teaching me,Carrie for your conversation that might help me in the future when someone ask me same question !