It Always seems Impossible Until It's Done.

It Always seems Impossible Until It's Done.

Sometimes we get overwhelmed when we are looking at what we want to achieve. It seems so insurmountable that we don't know how we will get to the end result. Here are a few tips to help you keep moving in the direction of your dreams.

Just do what is in front of you;

We are not always sure of where to begin or how to move toward the goal we've set. You have to start somewhere, right? There is no rule that says you have to start from the beginning. In fact, for me when I am starting a new project, as it is taking form all of the things that I need to do to make it happen come to light. This can sometimes be overwhelming as you realize just how much work is ahead of you. Take a deep breath and start a list. I usually put this list in a spreadsheet. Or grab a pen and paper if you have to.  It just makes it easier to track where I am up to and what still needs to be done. Just take the step that is front of you. Once you make a start the next step will appear and then the next and the next.

Keep moving forward:

It is really important to keep moving in the direction of your goal. If the next thing on the list is going to require more time than you have then pick something else. As I said earlier there is no rule that says you have to do things in a certain order. You just have to keep working on it.

Make time every day but keep your life in balance;

Set aside a time every day in your schedule to work on your project. Be realistic with this. Keeping a balance in your life is essential to success. I know from personal experience that when you are passionate about something you can loose track of the time and before you know it, it is two o'clock in the morning and you are forcing yourself to go to bed. If you don't keep your life in balance then chaos ensues and the goals are soon sacrificed. 

Create a realistic time frame;

Rome wasn't built in a day. Realize that it is going to take time to achieve your goal. Set a time frame based on realistic expectations. You may have to amend the time frame as you work towards the goal because sometimes, the more you get into a project the bigger it gets. Know this and plan for it accordingly. Especially if it is something brand new to you. 


Do the research;

Educating yourself is key to your success. If in doubt google it. There is an endless store of information out there available on the net. Some good, some not so good and usually for free. Be careful to use the right information. Don't believe everything you read and use your common sense.  Ask those in the field for advice if you need to. If you don't know anyone who has experience with your goal then google that too and ask for help and advice. You will find that there are a lot of people only too willing to help with tips, ideas and processes. You don't always have to create the wheel. The tried and true ways are sometimes the best.

Talk to your family and friends;

Make sure that you let your family and friends in on the fact that you have a goal that you want to achieve. This helps them realize that you may not be as available as you were before and might even get you some offers of help and words of encouragement. They love you, they are going to be your best cheer squad. 

Just keep taking the next logical step after the next and pretty soon your goal will be achieved. Good luck.





Pretty soon you will realize that you are there at the finish line. 

Just be yourself. You can't get it wrong

We spend a lot of time worrying if we are doing things right. We listen to the teachings of our churches and families. We know what our culture expects of us. We try to be good. We try to be loving. We try to be all sorts of things because we are taught that we should. In short, we perform.

Listening to outside influences
We listen to the teachings that we are taught. We try to fit within their framework. We put all sorts of restrictions on ourselves. We add pressure to perform in the right way and stress when we don't get it right. If when we go to our church and we don't follow all of their doctrines we are judged to be wanting. What ever way we look at it, we can never be good enough, loving enough, humble enough. We are never enough. You can't please everyone and sometimes, it seems, you can't please anyone. The information you receive from these outside sources is often times conflicting and results in us feeling confused and frustrated. Despite how well meaning they all are.

Listening to yourself
We posses an internal guidance system, it's called your feelings. Trust yourself, you will never steer yourself wrong. Listen to you. Pay attention to how you are feeling in any given moment. That is what will tell you if you are closer to source (God or whatever term you feel comfortable using) or further away. The better you feel the closer you are to your truth.

You are connected to everyone and everything
The universe runs through you and you through it. You are apart of everything there is. Source is not something that is separate from you, it is apart of who you are. I don't mean figuratively I mean literally. Jesus taught us this as well. You can not separate yourself from source. You can move further away but you can not be completely separated, any more than you can separate yourself from breathing.

Just be yourself
Trust yourself enough to be true to who you are. Honor yourself. I know that there is a lot of talk about the importance of positive thinking and removing negativity. And yes I am the first to teach these principles. But remember that we all think negative thoughts and feel negative feelings and behave in negative ways at times. This happens even though we try our very best not to. Which in itself can lead to feelings of fear and frustration. Don't be so hard on yourself. Recognize that this is normal. Remind yourself that you are human and everything is always alright. You can set the intention to think positively and be in an upbeat mood and with practice this will happen more and more often until it becomes your norm. As it becomes your norm you will see more and more evidence that you are achieving this by the people and things around you changing to be more representative of the way you want your world to be. Trust yourself because you can't get it wrong. It doesn't matter what happens, it is always alright. Everything is always unfolding the way it is supposed to. What ever you decide to do. However you decide to act. However you feel. What ever you want. It is always OK. Even if it is deemed to be negative or even wrong in some circles.  There are some that like being negative and that also is alright. No matter what it is, YOU CAN'T GET IT WRONG.

Unconditional Self Love

The following is a conversation that I had yesterday with a friend.

Jack - Hey, I have a question for you.

Carrie - Here we go!

Jack - No seriously

Carrie - OK, go ahead.

Jack - You know how you have been going on about this self love stuff?

Carrie - Yes

Jack - Are you saying we should brag about ourselves to everyone we meet. You know, tell everyone how awesome we really are?

Carrie - But, that wouldn't be self love would it?

Jack - How so? You have been telling me I should fall in love with myself. Isn't that part of it.

Carrie - Not at all. When you brag to someone, what you are doing is looking to them for their approval. You are asking them to judge you. In essence you are trying to gauge your own self worth by the values of someone else.

Jack - Isn't it important that they know how great I really am? I mean, look at all of this awesomeness.

Carrie - I am sure your ego thinks that's important.

Jack - Be nice.

Carrie - I was being nice. lol No seriously, looking to someone else for their approval would tell me that you think there is something lacking in you. There is nothing lacking in you or me or any of us. We are all magnificent beings of energy comprised of pure love. Yes I said pure love.

Jack - OK to the obvious question then...If we are all made of pure love then how come there is so much evil in the world? Answer me that one.

Carrie - That is because when people don't realize just how perfect they are, they sometimes act out. And unfortunately they act out in some really bad ways. They are in so much pain themselves. If they truly understood their own worth. If they truly understood that they were beings comprised of pure love then there is no way they could do anything to harm anyone or anything. EVER.

Jack - So you are saying then, that we should probably try and have compassion for the criminal instead of condemnation?

Carrie - Exactly. If they felt the self love that I am talking about then there would no longer be a need for the prisons. Wouldn't that be something?

Jack - Yes, it would. I think this world has a long way to go before it reaches that point though.

Carrie - I do too. But I think we are moving in the right direct though. This is why I think it so important to learn about self love. The only reason we judge others is because we sit in judgement on ourselves. Sitting in judgement is not love.

Jack - Do you really think that this is all that simple, though?

Carrie - Yes, Jack. I really do.

Breathing Through Meditation

Meditation, it seems, is viewed as something that we have to learn or be taught.  We assume that being a spiritual person requires a great deal of study, dedication and sacrifice. You have to do all of those funny things. Things like being a vegetarian or worse a vegan. (oh, come on. That was funny) You have to live your life in a certain way and give up all of the really fun stuff. Psst, you are a spirit. You are a spirit with a body, not a body with a spirit. You've got this.

Breath through it
All you have to do to meditate is breath through it. Find a comfortable chair or a comfortable place on the floor or where ever you want. Wear comfortable clothing or don't. Put some music on or don't. Light some candles or don't. You can do it on your own or with a buddy. I would suggest that you remove the distractions if you can't tune things out. And then just breath. Take deep breaths in and out, slowly. Thoughts will come, that's OK. Just let them drift. Feelings might come with the thoughts. That is also OK. Try not to hang onto to them either. Just let them drift as well. There is no wrong way to do it. It isn't some complicated process you have to be taught. So no more thinking, to THOSE people meditation is an easy thing but I think for me, it is all too complicated to learn. You can't get it wrong.

When should I meditate
When ever you want to. I would suggest that you start once a day. Maybe before you go to sleep. But make a commitment to practice it everyday. Just for five minutes or so. You can build on the time, but don't be worried about the length of time. This is not an exact science. Just stop when you want to stop. After a week or so you may want to add another session into your morning routine.

It really is as simple or as complicated as you want to make it. Just do what feels right to you. You will be amazed at how much meditating just a few minutes a day will impact your life.

A Different Take on Forgiveness

I know we all think we should be forgiving others for the wrongs that we believe they had done to us. We have been taught that in order to move on or passed what ever it was, we need to forgive. After all it is the noble thing to do.

Looking at forgiveness in a new way
One of the major principles that we are taught in LOA is that we are all personally responsible for everything that happens to us or around us. If this is true and I believe it is, then there is no need to ever feel you ever need to forgive anybody else for anything. The only person you need to forgive for what ever it is, is yourself.

Swallowing Personal Responsibility
This is a tough one to understand. A lot of the morals we have been taught will fight against this concept. How is it possible for the victim to be responsible for what horror they endured? Simply put, there are no victims. If it stands that we create our own existence, then we create our own existence. Good or bad. It can't be that we create the good and the not so good things but the truly bad things, no we don't do that.  I know this is tough, especially if you start to think about the truly evil things that happen in this world. But try at least reaching for an understanding of the personal responsibility concept while you read this post. It might just save all that bitterness from growing inside you in the first place and provide you some relief.

Forgiving Yourself
If you really are in control of your existence and you are, then you are the only one that needs to make adjustments and accept forgiveness. You need to reach a place where you understand that everything you experience adds to who you are. It adds to your growth, the growth of those around you and the growth of the universe. So therefore nothing that happens to us is wasted. Everything that happens adds to all that is.

Adjustments and Accepting Forgiveness
The exiting thing about this point is that if you are the only one in your world that needs to make adjustments or accept forgiveness (sometimes accepting forgiveness is harder than giving it) then you are the one in control and you are the one who can actually make it happen. Don't you feel powerful now.

Moving from Learning to Doing

Understanding the teachings is only half of the equation. You have to live them.

Daily Routine
Implementing these teachings into your daily life is simple but it takes dedication. Forming a routine, say at bed time helps with this. Here are some examples of how you might do this.

Bedtime Routine
Meditating prior to going to bed helps with winding down from the day, along with clearing your mind for sleep. Your body is like a computer, you need to log off. Meditating helps to center you. You only need to meditate to five minutes or so for it to be effective.  Add meditating, say after you brush your teeth. Adding this to your bedtime routine is easy, you just have to make it a priority.

Thoughts to Sleep on
The things that you think about whilst you are going to sleep marinate in your subconscious for the next 8 hours.  As you are dropping off to sleep don't spend that time going over your problems or things that irritated you. Instead use this time to concentrating on the wishes you made. The things that you want to experience. It is much better to marinating in positive, loving thoughts that make you happy for 8 hours. It takes discipline and yes you will gravitate back to the old thought patterns but gently remind your self that "you're doing it again" and replace them with positive thoughts.

Set Intentions as you are approaching the task
You may have heard of this as segment intending. As you are getting into your car to drive to work. Take 30 seconds to say I AM going to drive to work safely. The traffic is going to flow easy and everyone is going to be polite to each other. I AM going to arrive at work relaxed and refreshed. You should follow this for every situation as you come to it. If you are going into a meeting with someone that you know is just going to irritate you no end, act out the whole meeting going well with everyone being polite and respectful to each other. It does take practice and yes you have to keep it in mind as you go about your day. But keep doing it and it will become a habit very quickly. This will also help you prove to yourself that this stuff really does work. hahaha

Take it one step at a time
Add these changes into your life one step at a time. Don't set yourself up for failure but trying to make all these changes at once. Decide on what is the most important change to make and concentrate on that one. Then once you are comfortable with that one, add in the next one. You will be surprised just how quickly everything will fall into place.

Manifesting your wildest dreams is a very simple process. Then why isn't it working?

That's easy silly. Because there is something that you either don't understand or there is something that you have got going on in your vibration that you need to adjust. That was easy for me to say, huh?

Three step process

Thought - Feeling - Achievement

These three little steps seem easy enough. I think I am doing that. Well, except for the last one that is. If it's so easy, then how come I am getting it wrong?

Thought
You have to decide what it is you want. It can be anything. Let's use travel as an example. This is one that I hear a lot. I have done a lot of traveling in my life. I often hear people saying, it must have been easy for you because you had the money. Well, actually I didn't. I just made a decision that I wanted to travel. I got specific about it, made it a priority, dreamed a little and then the universe took care of the rest.

Decision
When you are choosing what it is you want, you also have to ask the following question. Does this feel right to me? If you are 5'5" tall and a slight build would it feel right to you to be a line backer for the Eagles? I'm not saying you can't do it, I am asking if it feels right to you. Deep down inside. If it does then go for it. If it doesn't then make a different choice.

Defining that decision 
Ask yourself why? Why do I want this? What is it about this that I find so intriguing? Let's go back to the travel example. If the decision feels right to you then the why's come naturally but it might help the process if you spent some time examining the why. There were a lot of reasons I wanted to travel. I wanted to see and experience everything I could. I wanted to give my children the same gift that I was given by my parents, travel is an excellent tool for broadening your horizons. This was an invaluable lesson for me and I wanted my children to experience that too. I love people and getting to know different people, what better way than in their environment. I wanted to experience all the different sights and sounds and smells and tastes and and and and....You get my point. Defining why you want what you want helps with the feeling part. It provides inspiration and determination.

Getting specific
So you have made your choice, you know why you chose it, now you have to get specific. For me, I decided on where I was going to start. What was my first destination? Manchester, England seemed like a good place to start. I have loads of family there and England is close to all Europe has to offer. This excited me. From there my plans (wishes) just seemed to flow. One thought brought the next and then the next and before long I knew exactly what I wanted.

Feeling
This happens naturally during the decision process. As you figure out what and why and how the feelings just happen. The more time you spend thinking about your choice the more the feelings grow. Use your imagination to see yourself doing and experiencing everything that you had decided upon. Do this until you get to the point of feeling like you have already done it. Once you have created this level of feeling then you have it. Your mind doesn't know the difference between having actually experienced it and you are thinking about a memory or it is something that you have imagined. Once you are here at this point. you can let go and let God. (Source or what ever term you personally use)

Achievement
I think a lot of us make the mistake that once we get to this point all we have to do is sit back and wait for it to happen to us. WRONG. Once you reach this point you have to be on the look out for the opportunities. You have to watch for the things that the universe is laying at your feet for you to pick up. You have to take action.

Action
This is a very important part of the process. If you don't action then you are never going to achieve anything on your list. Let's go back to the travel example. There were quite a few things that I had to do in order to actual travel. The universe gave me the things I needed to do in the order that was needed. I had to take the universe up on all of the offers it made to me about my dream. It didn't always look like I was achieving anything but each step I completed lead me closer and closer to the realization of it. Within a few months everything was in place and the reality was there. It was awesome. Just awesome. I remember walking down a street near my sisters house in Cumbria with my girls and a feeling of sheer joy passed through me. I felt the satisfaction of having really achieved a dream. This was an incredible feeling. I can't tell you how much gratitude I felt at that moment.


If I can do it, you can do it. Have fun, be easy about it and let it all come together naturally.